GASLIGHTING TRAITS`

I have a complicated thought about how someone is so easily manipulated by someone who always gaslighting and usually the victim will continue to feel guilty for what he didn’t do. 

I have a friend who is a victim of gaslighting, he told me that he had realized and fallen into the trap of a gaslighting person. 

He said he felt like he was in a nightmare. He always said that he was wrong, that he didn't remember correctly, that he was too sensitive. And he started to doubt his-self, feeling that he was indeed very wrong. But, one day he realized that he was in a gaslighting trap. Then he decided not to get involved in the debate anymore and sought support from his friends including me. From that moment on I also started documenting events and conversations to prove the truth whether he was really a victim of gaslighting. But I realized that I had no right to judge someone or a victim of gaslighting, maybe he really needed help. But in fact he needed help to get out of the trap of a manipulative person, manipulative is not only an NPD or ORBITING, there is also a gaslighting person, maybe for young people this is a common thing but this experience must be known so that in the process of becoming adults they can know what kind of people they meet. 

Back to the topic, 

`He said I felt relieved after realizing that I was a victim of gaslighting. I began to understand that his behavior was not about me, but about himself. I decided to take steps to protect myself and restore my self-confidence. 

I started attending therapy to process my experiences and build my self-confidence. I also joined a support group to meet people who had experienced similar things. I felt less alone and that I had strong support. 

I also began to prioritize myself and my needs. I learned to say "no" to things that were not good for me and to prioritize activities that made me happy. I felt more confident and stronger. 

One day, I decided to confront her and tell her that I would no longer be a victim of gaslighting. I was scared, but I knew that I had to do it for myself. I told her that I would no longer engage in unhealthy arguments and that I would put myself first.

I felt relieved after confronting her. I knew that I had taken the right steps to protect myself and restore my self-confidence. I felt stronger, and I knew that I could face whatever came my way.

I hope that my story can help others who have experienced gaslighting. I want them to know that they are not alone and that they deserve to be treated with respect. I also want them to know that there is hope and that they can recover from bad experiences. And to victims, always be brave and speak up, tell someone close to you so that everything feels better and you are not alone.

Here is a description of gaslighting,

how to deal with people who have gaslighting traits:

🍁 What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a manipulative behavior in which someone makes another person doubt their own perception, memory, or sanitation. Gaslighting can make the victim feel confused, and insecure. Gaslighting can occur in a variety of contexts, including romantic relationships, friendships, or even in the workplace.

🍁 Impact of Gaslighting

The impact of gaslighting can be significant, including:

- Feeling insecure and worthless

- Feeling confused and not understanding what is happening

- Feeling sad and lost

- Feeling insecure and distrustful of others

- Difficulty making decisions and solving problems

- Difficulty building and maintaining healthy relationships

🍁 Reasons for Gaslighting

Reasons for gaslighting can vary, including:

- The need to control and manipulate others

- Inability to deal with conflict or differences of opinion

- The desire to maintain power and dominance

- Inability to admit mistakes or weaknesses

- The need to maintain a positive self-image

🍁 How to Deal with Gaslighting

Here are some ways to deal with gaslighting:

- Trust yourself and your perceptions

- Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or professionals

- Document events and conversations to prove the truth

- Don't get involved in unhealthy debates or arguments

- Dare to speak up and stand up to a manipulative person and take a stand against their lies

- Focus on positive activities and build

🍁 Moral Message

The moral of the story is that gaslighting is unhealthy and disrespectful behavior. The person doing the gaslighting may have personal issues to deal with, but that doesn’t mean they can treat others with disrespect.

🍁 The Gaslighting Paradox

is that the person doing the gaslighting may feel like they are protecting themselves from confrontation or conflict, but they are actually causing more damage and sadness to the other person. Gaslighting is also a complex and multifaceted phenomenon, which can be influenced by a variety of factors, including relationship dynamics, personality, and social context.

By understanding gaslighting and its effects, we can be better prepared to deal with unexpected situations and build healthier, more respectful relationships.