Impact, the reasons and ways to overcome orbiting characteristic~

You know often you are surrounded by people who make you uncomfortable plus people who have an orbiting nature. And I have experience with people like that, it really makes me uncomfortable. 

One day I felt like I was in a never-ending circle. People around me seemed to not understand personal boundaries. They kept sending messages, liking, and commenting on my posts on social media. But that's okay and that's not the point and sometimes that's the risk when you play social media anyone can comment on your life, but my experience meeting orbiting people is the main point of my writing. 

One of them was someone I used to know closely. After we broke up, I hoped to have some space to recover. However, he kept monitoring me, liking every post of mine, and even sending messages to ask about my life. 

I felt like I was being watched, like there was no privacy anymore. I started to feel uncomfortable and stressed. I didn't know how to stop this behavior, because every time I tried to talk to him, he just said that he cared and wanted to know about me. 

I realized that I needed to set clear and firm boundaries. I blocked him on social media and asked him not to contact me again. I also sought support from friends and family to help me through the situation. 

After some time, I started to feel better. I learned to set healthy boundaries and prioritize my own needs. I realized that I can't control other people's behavior, but I can control how I respond and handle situations. 

I felt relieved after blocking him on social media and asking him not to contact me again. However, I couldn't shake the feeling that he was still monitoring me from afar. After blocking it never lasts long. People like that have many ways and continue to be present in your life and monitor you with other accounts that they have. I started to feel paranoid and uncomfortable every time I saw someone who looked like him. 

One day, I saw him at a gym that I used to go to regularly. I felt my heart beating so fast and I didn't know how to deal with it. My hands were shaking like I had a deep trauma because of the experience I had with him. I tried to avoid eye contact and walk away, but he saw me and approached me.

“I don’t understand why you blocked me,” he said in a slightly angry tone. “I just wanted to check in on you and make sure you were okay.”

Over the years, he would text me and ask how I was doing, as if he was checking up on me, whether I was happy or not. Whether I was with someone else or not.

I felt uncomfortable and tried to explain that I needed space and time to heal. However, he wouldn’t listen and kept talking about his feelings.

I realized that I needed to take further action to protect myself. I asked my friends to help me stay safe and make sure I was safe. I also considered taking legal action to protect myself from unwanted behavior. After a while, I started to feel more secure and confident. I learned to set firm boundaries and prioritize my own needs. I realized that I deserved to have space and time to heal and live my own life.

The message is that Orbiting is a complex behavior in social relationships, especially in the context of romantic or interpersonal relationships. People who have orbiting traits often have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) traits and you should be careful when dealing with them.

Here is a brief explanation of orbiting behavior descriptively

🍁Definition of Orbiting

Orbiting is a behavior in which someone who has broken up or separated from their partner still continues to monitor or follow their partner's activities on social media or in everyday life. Orbiting can be actions such as:

- Constantly looking at the ex/partner's social media profile

- Liking or commenting on the ex/partner's posts

- Sending messages or chats to the ex/partner

- Severely and recklessly Attending activities or events attended by the ex/partner

 🍁 Reasons for Orbiting

Orbiting can be caused by several reasons, including:

- Difficulty letting go of feelings or emotions that are still strong towards the ex/partner

- The desire to stay connected or have control over the ex/partner

- Uncertainty or confusion about feelings or situations that are happening

- The need to monitor or supervise the ex/partner for safety or protection reasons

🍁 Impact of Orbiting

Orbiting can have significant impacts on both parties, including:

- Making the ex/partner feel uncomfortable or disturbed

- Inhibiting the healing or recovery process after a breakup

- Making the person doing the orbiting feel trapped in unhealthy feelings or emotions

- Interfering with relationships with other people or daily activities

🍁 How to Overcome Orbiting

To overcome orbiting, there are several steps that can be taken, namely: can be done are:

- Stay away from or block your ex / partner on social media

- Focus on positive and constructive activities or hobbies

- Seek support from friends, family, or professionals

- Reflect on lingering feelings and emotions and find ways to let them go

By understanding disturbing behavior and its impact, we can take steps to address and heal unhealthy feelings or emotions.

Hopefully those of you who are experiencing and becoming victims of orbiting can overcome it well and return to living comfortably.

From my experience, I resolved it with the authorities because I had been treated so creepily, even though I still continued to get shadows of him, I continued my life well even though you had to run and move to a new place where you were not found by him.