About Women's Rights~

There are so many things on my mind right now, am I the only one who thinks like this or do other people have the same thoughts but don't express them? I just want to tell and express my thoughts and feelings about the role of women in married life and even their rights as women and how they face the various challenges of life that they live. I often wonder why women have to accept so many things in this life, especially about the conditions that exist in women's bodies. I don't mean to question my natural nature as a woman or complain about everything, but this is part of my experience and thoughts that I want to share here without siding with a particular gender.

For example, why do women have to menstruate every month? According to medical science, menstruation is a natural cleansing process that occurs every month as part of the reproductive cycle. Menstruation also occurs due to hormonal changes in a woman's body, especially the hormones estrogen and progesterone. If it has to be like that, why doesn't it also apply to men? Don't men also have something to clean? Yes, even though menstruation is caused because women have reproductive organs or a uterus while men don't. and while in men I know there is no hormonal change process because he does not ovulate. but men also have unwanted blood such as blood that collects in the testicles but this blood doesn't come out of the man's body like menstruation experienced by women, instead this blood is absorbed by the man's body through a process called resorption. what is meant by resorption is the process of reabsorbing a substance so that substances or fluids such as blood no longer come out of the body~

Even before entering the marriage and childbirth phase, women experience menstruation and have to experience excessive pain. Some women experience menstruation normally and have no problems, but some others struggle with the pain they feel during menstruation, such as pain in the stomach that cannot be explained in words, menstrual pain is the most painful pain but without tears, and it feels like your uterus is going to come out and fall to the floor~ xx that's an extreme explanation and it does feel like that. And for cases like me who feel incredible pain, this pain is unforgivable and unexplainable.

Then entering the marriage and childbirth phase, why do women also have to experience significant changes in their bodies and hormones after giving birth? Why do they have to face and control these changes? Meanwhile, men not experience significant changes after marriage, except for changes in their perspective, lifestyle, and activities.

In addition, women also have to deal with feelings of discomfort about the changes that occur in their bodies, such as feeling less confident and excessive insecurity, feeling unwell, or feeling like they have to change to look better in front of their husbands. Why do these efforts often occur in women, while men not experience the same thing? or not try harder for each other?

After giving birth, sometimes women don't want to increase the possibility of having another child. However, what women face is that they have to protect themselves from getting pregnant, and many suggest using birth control (prevention to delay having children). And that happens again to women who have to choose and use birth control with various pains of course when using it, although some women don't want to use birth control and make their own decisions, but my question is still why? from the coming of this thought that always crosses my mind and I always reflect on it, how noble the task of a woman is and how special it is to be born as a woman and have to go through various things, even though men sometimes feel the same way, but I am so amazed by the tasks and responsibilities of a woman.

Sometimes I wonder why don't a husband want to hold back and not be selfish? Even not all husband being selfish! For example, when having sex, they have to use protection, that's a fairer way, right? Or, if they really don't want to have children anymore, why a husband not sterilize themselves so they don't have children? and a wife doesn't need to bother using again by birth control. I think that's a pretty good way to live a married life without feeling unfair to each other.

I really appreciate men who are open-minded and accept all women's opinions and desires, what they want and don't want to do. Men like that give us the freedom to choose whether we want to have children or not, whether we want to use birth control or not. I really respect men who don't control women's rights. However, that awareness is still rare among men and only a few men are as rational as that.

However, beyond that, what I question is why do women have to accept all of this? I believe that everything happens because of cause and effect, and there must be a reason and purpose behind all of this. However, I still haven't found the right method and answer for cases like this. 

Even though until now I still haven't found the right answer to my question, I try to be wise and not exaggerate the situation that women are experiencing. in my opinion, what should happen is will happens. I try to think rationally and accept the essence of being a woman, that's all. and once again this is just my opinion without cornering any gender. and the message I want to convey is that in a relationship or marriage, men and women should be fairer when living together and understanding each other's circumstances and finding the best solution to everything is being faced so that no one feels disadvantaged. 

xx Autumn~