Forget to reflect 🍁
In the process of forgetting and healing your pain, you often forget to reflect and give yourself attention.
Such as: You must start learning to grow from your wounds, think logically, and start building healthy relationships in the future without involving your feelings in the past, because if you continue to involve them, they will form a poison over time.
Be grateful for your current situation. Pain brings life lessons and gives you gratitude because it makes you strong for getting through it well. But don't forget to give yourself time to heal by not dwelling on sadness. Believe that sadness fades with time. Continue to focus on the positive aspects of your life and focus on the present. Then, after going through a part of healing processes, even if it doesn't recover quickly, occasionally celebrate your progress, step by step you will begin to forget. Remember the key is patience because 'healing is a gradual process, it can’t be instantaneous.'
You should know after all this while you continue your healing process method, you must apply the "self-awareness" method because this method can help your logic to reject that they must leave your mind, so continue to be aware of it. And continue yourself with your new routine, but don't forget to stop your routine that involves, because it will make your efforts-, even if you keep saying you've forgotten, believe me it's just self-rejection and your high self-esteem will ruin all the efforts that have been built. Just get away from all routines that involves, that's the key. Cutting off the person who is the source of your pain is the right way if you want to recover quickly. It is quite difficult but it is very helpful so just do it.
In this process, you will come to a phase where you feel very sad and lonely, but sadness is a natural and very normal response to loss. And this is a universal human experience. Because it can also bring cognitive reactions (difficulty concentrating) and behavioral disorders because after loss there will always be a natural reaction of the body that refuses to be separated from that person. And this applies to any type of loss. And in this phase it is truly very difficult, but I am sure you can face difficult situations in this life because you are a great human being chosen for things in this world. The grief you are experiencing in your current endeavor is individual grief and no one grieves in the same way, so it is certain that individuals like you can always recover in any way without a predetermined timeline, it could also be that your process is faster than other people, but it comes back to your desire to heal quickly or you just follow where destiny will take you. In addition to deep sadness, you will find a lonely phase in your life because you are too focused on the past without seeing the present which turns out to be better than being stuck in the past.
''I will tell you first as someone who was trapped in a past wound that never healed, many times I wanted to recover but always failed, many times I tried to forget it but still couldn't only get more emotional because of nursing the wound. But actually I was tired and not silent, I really wanted to get up and recover, because I had seen the human who was the source of my wound, he was still living well even after leaving my life, but I realized that getting up was a very slow process that took 6 years to recover. Again, the human process is different. Keep in mind that I was down, it doesn't mean I didn't meet and try a new heart, many times I tried to live with a new heart but was always thrown away by my logic that was running too fast from the men who were with me, then I didn't find the match from the heart I wanted, and ended up closing my heart again without giving them a chance to try. It doesn't mean I'm always down, it's just that I have lost a lot of trust for humans out there, that's the result of my past wounds. It's not just a matter of the heart but it has an big impact on my social issues.''
Well, in this lonely phase, you feel compelled to do it by starting with emotional healing that causes obstacles in your social relationships with other people. An issues is : After that.
- You begin to feel something is wrong with you because you don't want to meet anyone after you feel endless sadness.
- You must start reaching out to your friends and closest family, even though it is very difficult, but you do this so that you can make changes in yourself. And that is a very good step.
- However, you still feel that from year to year, the sadness remains the same, that's okay, input in your mind is your healing process.
Loneliness also affects your spirituality. So use that moment to get closer to your God and ask for guidance for all your current problems. Connecting with God helps you calm your heart and mind, believe me, it is the most effective way to meditate outside your mortal world. Besides your inner spirituality, connecting with nature can also help you get rid of your loneliness because external activities connect unity and make you get to know many new people and you need that to heal. Last but not least~
“ Once again focus on yourself, explore values, goals and meaning, let go of the hatred and anger that are attached to you, accept the wound, let go of the grief. Focus on getting rid of things that make you feel like you're not growing and that keep you in a lonely phase. “
Ya and here iam i have method for forgetting people who i care much. And now I've lost hope and will no longer accept your lilies, which will wither in the corner of my room. There will be no more heart to nurture and nurture those beautiful flowers with a smile. For the past week, the lilies have withered more quickly, accompanying my sadness as I forget you. At that time, what I wanted was the person who always sent them, not the flowers themselves. My love for lilies faded because you turned my lilies into a sad story to remember. But I won't blame that flower. I will love it because it gave me the color of happiness, even though it ultimately turned into sorrow. But with gratitude, I finally managed to let go, letting you go wisely in happiness and peace. And i will always love lilies anyway~
“ For me, my lilies wither, a sign of departed love,leaving behind sweet memories. My heart is torn. The petals fall, the heart is wounded, its beauty fades, but its love remains.
The flower withers and its petals fall; I will replace the fragile sadness with new happiness. Goodbye, doubtful lover. I will start my story anew. “
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